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A Daily Dose of Creative Self-Love

Isn’t it wonderful that Valentine’s comes in February, right smack in the middle of winter (for those of us in the northern hemisphere)? It’s a perfect time to thaw our frozen hands, feet, and hearts and to move us ahead into more self-love.

Actually, my book, “Me, Myself, & I ~ 28 Days of Creative Self Love” (www.creativeselflove.com) was inspired by Valentine’s Day. Even if we’re in the throes of a fabulous relationship, there’s always room to love ourselves more than we already do. And, for some of us…well, there’s a first time for everything!

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If you’ve read my book, you already know it’s chockful of insights and wisdom about how to begin your journey toward self-love. At the end of each day, there are affirmations, journaling exercises, and activities to get your creative juices flowing (ergo, the “creative” part of self-love). Woven into every page are photos, artwork, and songs that help you connect to daily topics. To quote one comment I received on the book, “It’s a lot!”

It is indeed a lot. In fact, you could spend way more than 28 days pouring through it and gleaning every nugget and tidbit it contains. You could listen for hours to the YouTube playlist or spend quite a while browsing the art gallery. And, I hope you do!

It may be, though, you don’t have hours to spend on creativity right now, much less on learning to love yourself. Believe me, I completely understand. That’s why I’m creating something called, “The Daily Dose” for the month of February. In 30 minutes or less, you can get a thimbleful of information from each day’s topic at 9pm via Periscope livestream (download the smartphone app), find the podcasts on this website, via links to it on social media outlets, and on katch.me.

Every one of us needs a daily dose of self-love, don’t we?! Less than thirty minutes of learning to love yourself just a little bit more. You can afford it (it’s free). You’re worth it (really). No doubt, you deserve it. Lock yourself in the bathroom, hide under the covers, or sit in your car if you need to claim some solitary space. Bring some paper and a pen for notes. And, tune in wherever you can. Whenever you can.

Take a daily dose of something that’s really good for you. No long list of side effects except for more joy, more laughter, and, hopefully, more love for the most important person in your life—you!

"Do what you love...and the money will follow,"says author and wise woman, Marsha Sinetar. We've all heard this countless times. But, few of us have yet to attain either the "what you love" or the "money that follows" or both!

On the other hand, some of us have it reversed. We're doing what we hate for the money that follows. It may come in the form of benefits; but even then, money is our bottom line. There's little chance that what we love will follow those dollar signs, so we hold on with all our might to the strands of passion we can tease out of what we're doing for the sake of money.

I've been teaching a college course for nearly 10 years entitled, "Let Your Life Speak: The Language of Passion & Purpose." I encourage and empower students--traditional and nontraditional alike--to explore who they are on the inside before they launch a massive job search, declare a major, or even find a new relationship or a new home. There are scads of tools and techniques available to help people of all ages discover their sense of passion and purpose. So much so, a 15-week course can touch upon only a little of what's out there.

Writer Marie Forleo penned a great article on ways to uncover your passion. Unlike Marie, I believe that stories from our childhood and self-assessments such as the Campbell Interest and Skills Survey can indeed provide indicators of our adult passions. She does hit it on the head, though, when she recommends experience as the best way to find the brightest part of who we are.

Living your passion doesn't require a fulltime job or a vow of poverty. You can explore potential passions through short-term volunteer jobs, free online studies, and local workshops. You can "try on" a passion by shadowing those who are doing what you're interested in or are just intrigued by. You can do informational interviews with others in potential positions and possible fields.

I've done all these things in the circuitous journey to my heart of hearts. At a crossroad in my career, I interviewed 5 people of whose work I felt jealous--a VP of health marketing, an executive director of a local health-related non-profit, an executive director of a for-profit medical megalith, etc. I asked each person the same questions:  how they got where they were professionally; what they loved about their current job; what education they had or wished they had; and, what advice they would give someone like me. They all were delighted to share their wisdom and experiences with me.

Years later, before heading to seminary, I shadowed chaplains in hospitals and in Hospice agencies. Each semester I was in school, I participated in temporary opportunities that got me out of the books, out of my head, and gave me tangible, hands-on experience. These real-life stints allowed me to "try on" a wide variety of roles that my degree might encompass.

Along the way, I have learned to pay attention to the things that make my pulse quicken and my heart go pitty-pat. I have learned to say, "No, thank you," to the roles that don't create a positive response in my body and "Yes, please!" to even the littlest thing that stirs my inner fire.

Those internal responses are sometimes faint. At times, the "Yes" is followed by a question mark. But, I make note of it all and stay open to what it might look like if I took one step closer.

A few years ago, that step closer involved enrolling in an art journaling workshop facilitated by the most extraordinary Cyndi Briggs. I didn't know Cyndi or anything about art journaling. I had to drive an hour to get there after a long day as a Hospice chaplain. But, deep down, taking the class felt right.

Before 6 weeks was up, I was doing a happy dance and singing, "I like it! I love it! I want some more of it!" ♪♫ My heart was pitty-patting double time! I had no idea where this newly discovered passion was going to take me. I just knew that it was somehow woven into my DNA, into my fingerprints, and into my soul.

I knew that no matter what, in some way, shape, or form, art journaling had to be part of my life from then on. Slowly and surely, that knowledge and my putting it into practice has led to one major shift, then another and another as I keep following my pulse and my passion, one step at a time. It's been the impetus behind my book, "Me, Myself, & I ~ 28 Days of Creative Self-Love," and I still don't know where it's going to take me!

Have you noticed your pulse speeding up lately? Have you felt your heart expanding a wee bit? What little thing instigated it? How can you say "Yes" to it--even if it's a meek and mild "yes"? Even if it's a tentative "y-e-e-e-s-s-s"? What teeny step can you make that will take you just that much closer to your yes and the possibility of living out your passion and purpose?

Notice your pulse. Listen to your heart. They know what you love to do, and they pointing the way!